Good Stuff
the space between therapy and coaching
Because life happens
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“You are, of course, allowed to love food and music and champagne and rare sunny afternoons in October.
You can love the sight of waterfalls and the smell of old books. [And] the love of people [need not be] off limits”
― Matt Haig, How to Stop Time [edited by Jane]
Good stuff
As a culture, we have trouble asking for good stuff. We’re taught that envy is bad; that keeping-up-with-the-Joneses needs to look casual and accidental, and to be grateful for what we have. We have a million reasons, two million responsibilities and 13 million guilt-trips keeping us from chasing our dreams. But life is short, and when we get to the end, we really don’t want to be face-palming.
Spirituality
One of Jane’s hunches is that our beliefs about death determine how we live life. If we’re fearful of death, we’re fearful of life. If we’re terrified of hell, we’re probably already living in it. If we think life is just a holding-tank before singing Amazing Grace for ten thousand years, we’re probably not going to get much done.
If we think this is all there is, we’ll want to make the most of it.
And, if we think we’ve been here before, we’ll want to learn all we need to this time around, so we don’t have to come back again.
There are very few spaces where we get to explore our thoughts about death and whatever might be beyond. Jane holds one of them. And her only agenda – truly – is helping all of us find our most authentic life.
Life purpose
Once we’ve had a few authentic conversations about what we believe, we can start getting into questions of values and life purpose. What do we think we’re here to do? What are we here to learn?
Where are the places we feel we’ve already been living our life-purpose, and where do we need to evolve?
What do we love? What do we have talent for? What gets us really, really ticked off? And what would make us mad at ourselves if we didn’t get it done?
Jane has a bunch of great exercises and protocols to help us uncover our deepest wisdom about what we’re here to do. And once we’ve found it, she’ll help make a plan to get there – hopefully in this life.
Relationships
One of the greatest paradoxes of life is that we are wholly relational beings, yet we find relationships so hard to do. While Jane decided a long time ago that she wasn’t interested in propping up miserable marriages, she’s always willing to make a good relationship better, working with clients individually or as a couple.
Jane fully believes in bringing couple intimacy beyond the bedroom and into our intellectual and spiritual spaces, helping all of us love together, dream together, live out values together and be all that we can be together. And she’ll do that for you too.
Sex
With all that sex apparently sells, it’s amazing how few of us are experiencing all that it has to offer. Many of us feel our sex-life is lacking some oomph, especially those of us approaching middle-age.
Just like religion, there aren’t many spaces in this world where we can have meaningful, respectful conversations about our sexual beliefs, fears, disappointments, longings, and desires. Jane holds one of them and will hold it for you.
Dreams
Coming clean with our dreams takes courage. All too often they’ve been squashed, ridiculed or told that they’re impossible, impractical or selfish. Living the dream requires brave conversation about where we’re at and where we want to be, before building a plan to get there. Jane would be honored to facilitate your dream process, helping you find – and live out – your good stuff in this life.