Dating Coaching

The space between therapy and coaching

Because life happens

What is dating coaching?

The word at the gym is that love is scarce and all the good ones are taken. Movies and radio-shows make features out of dating nightmares. And let’s face it, we’re all sick of dick-pics, mirror-selfies, emotional-unavailability and otherwise boorish (or simply boring) behaviors. But what if the reason we focus on the misery is because it’s safer than owning what we really, really want?

Jane is no stranger to love, dating and overcoming disappointment.

As a coach and marriage & family therapist, she took courage from her client’s stories, and, with an army of therapists, coaches and energy healers behind her, found the strength to leave a difficult marriage, put herself out there and truly find her happily-ever-after. Since then she has successfully coached many clients in her 5-step process of learning how to love, date and land someone great.

Step 1 – learning to love

Learning to love starts with loving ourselves, which most of us are stunningly bad at. Jane’s initial step is to address past trauma, negative core-beliefs and blocks to self-love to help clients start believing that abundant, beautiful love is not only possible, but that they truly deserve it.

Step 2: Creating our personalized list

We spend so much time considering what kind of person would make the perfect employee, roommate and pet-sitter, yet we expect our life-partner to fall into our lap. It’s time to apply the employee, roommate and pet-sitter principles to our dating life, without worrying about being fair or politically correct.

Jane will work with you to define your list of ideal attributes in your new mate – from profession to body-type – with no guilt or shame for naming exactly what floats your boat.

Step 3: Putting ourselves out there

There’s an old joke about a man who repeatedly prays to God that he would win the lottery. Every week he checks the results, and every week, he finds he hasn’t won. Eventually, he cries out to God, “why won’t you answer my prayer?” And God responds, “Do you think you could you meet me half way and buy a ticket?”

The moral of the story: it’s unlikely we’re going to meet our new mate in the grocery store. Getting on a dating site increases the size of our pool, and if we’re serious about meeting someone new, we might need to give our guardian angels a little help. Jane will advise you on the merits of different dating sites, educate you on warning signs to look out for, and assist you with your profile so you can give your those angels a fighting chance.

Step 4: Dating strategy

One of the main causes of dating disappointment could be easily avoided if we all stopped messaging for weeks on end and arranged to meet right away for a low-key cup of coffee or glass of wine.

Typically we know within the first five minutes of meeting someone whether there’s the possibility of a relationship or not.

If it’s a not, we’ve only lost an hour, we’ve got more information to hone our list and, just like buses, there’ll be another one along in ten minutes. Jane suggests a ratio of 10 first dates to 5 second dates to 2 third dates, although most of her clients find their special someone much more quickly than that. If every date is a disaster, it’s time to troubleshoot which part of the process has fallen down and take an honest look at the energy we’re putting out.

Step 5: Landing someone great

If the steps are followed closely, it shouldn’t be long until you truly land someone great, but it’s important to do a gut-check. Jane will walk you through paying attention to your body to keep you safe, and teach you about relational communication and problem-solving strategies. She’ll also discuss what’s appropriate to expect from your new mate as you move towards long-term exclusivity.

Ready to find your happily-ever-after?

Jane offers a 5-session dating coaching package for $999. Sessions are 45-mins in length and occur online or on the phone from anywhere in the world.